Why Are Men Killing Themselves?

Is there enough being done to help? Is it social factors? Life in general? Or perhaps some are suffering from PTSD without realising?

Peter Marshall, Stevenage

“It might have something to do with the enormously gynocentric therapy industry. Most men who have been to couples counselling will testify to this. It might also be to do with the fact that men ARE open to discussing the issues we face, yet the accepted response is to not listen to them – and them being told to ‘man up’. It may also be to do with the fact men have been taught that women are more valuable than themselves, therefore putting themselves in a vulnerable position when it comes to matters of self-esteem.”

Barry John, Dumfriesshire

“It’s not that men need to open up their hearts to society, but society that needs to open its heart up to men – then we might finally get somewhere with this on-going mess.”

Peter Lester, London

“These days it seems completely acceptable in society to consider men of any age as being disposable, and the sooner our government pick up on this as a source of enormous risk to within the populous, the better everyone will be.”

Bob Shelby, Somerset

“It’s too much of that traditional ‘man up’ attitude and then the stigma related to men being open about such issues.”

Charles Jackson-Smythe, London

We at suffragents.org calculate that over 2000 men commit suicide because of unfair divorce laws in the UK.

Jonathan Evans, Stevenage

“The question is WHY though?”

Charles Jackson-Smythe, London

“Many men give up because they have no hope. Their dreams and hopes for a future are in tatters and the kids are now treated as cash machines for ex-partners. Pills and drugs plus psychological help can never give a man back his biological children, born out of love, but he is now suffering a ‘living bereavement’. When the law is more sympathetic and treats divorce accusations of abuse as criminal activities – and that his behaviour has to be ‘proved beyond reasonable doubt’ – then we shall see a reduction in male suicide rates. At the moment a woman can basically file an unsubstantiated accusation as a divorce reason and the man is condemned as guilty.”

Simon Havens, Bedfordshire

“I believe it’s a culture of ‘toxic masculinity’. There’s a reason men, on average, will commit suicide with much ‘messier’ methods than women – such as self-inflicted gunshots, hanging etc., as opposed to overdosing. Men cannot speak up for fear of being perceived as ‘weak’ and ‘un-manly’.”

David Westmoreland, Hertfordshire

“Men’s mental health is almost certainly connected to suicide being the biggest killer of men under 45. I can personally vouch that the industry in which I work has done little to even spot, let alone tackle mental health issues in young men.”

George Jacobs, Norfolk

“I’ve started to notice an increase in the number of helpline and awareness posters about men’s mental health and alcohol problems in the toilets of bars, pubs and even construction sites lately.”

Oscar Hedges, Hertfordshire

“I don’t think there’s anywhere to go for mental help near me – the nearest mental health help is probably about an hour+ travel from me. There needs to be more done to make these services available and also to let people know about them.”

Sally Smith, Warwickshire

“In my humble opinion this ‘lad’ culture encourages men to hide their true feelings and to not show weakness – if they do they get the mickey taken out of them. This affects young men massively. Older men also have these same ‘manly’ standards to live by, but often have little knowledge of mental health issues or the services available to help them.”

Jack Harrison, Hampshire

“It’s a sad state of affairs. A friend of mine who did seek help was put on a really long waiting list and when he finally got talking to a doctor, the doctor had very little sympathy for him! If you are male and think you need to speak to someone don’t delay; it can also be a good idea to take a friend or family member with you if you’re not very good at talking!”

Abraham Walters, Kent

“The mind is the most complicated and sensitive part of the body and can be damaged very easily, even by itself! It’s a pretty simple concept but society seems unable to accept it as what should be the norm.”

Oliver Jacobs, Sussex

“I have had PTSD problems in the past in relation to my military service and now seek treatment every time I think I’m going to relapse. I really hate going through what I do, but medical help and counselling has been a godsend and it usually does get me through.”